Your Vagina is Not a Gaping Black Hole
I have to get something off my chest. I understand period stigma, that perhaps we are not as forward as we’d like to think with equality…but vagina stigma has to stop. Now. Your vagina is not a gaping black hole made large by sex, tampons, menstrual cups or other insertion.
Here’s what it is and why you may think it’s a gaping tunnel fit for a commuter train.
If I hear it one more time I may scream.
I get it. We all want to have small tight vaginas. Something our male partners desire, tight, youthful vaginas that are full of pleasure and well, tightness.
We’ve all heard it. You can turn on the radio and hear phrases like “She keeps it tight.” Something derogatory + “tight pussy.” and so on and so forth. Like being 6 feet tall and 1oo pounds, having a tiny vagina is to be desired…right?
So, in turn, no one wants to think they have a large, loose vagina. If a small tight vagina is good then a large loose vagina is bad?
Who is doing this vagina measuring?
Did I miss the role call? I have yet to have my vagina measured, although I may look into it.
For information about measuring your cervix height for a menstrual cup check here.
What this misconception means.
There are women who won’t insert a menstrual cup or tampon for fear or disrupting their vagina’s tightness and many believe that using the larger tampon or larger menstrual cup means that they have an undesirable vagina.
A menstruator may not want to buy the “larger” cup because it, in turn, it means that they have this undesirable large vagina. Pushing that order button on the cup can be an insult to one’s self-esteem or ego.
However, in fact, they more than likely do not have a vaginal black hole. Nor a giant, tunnelling vagina.
If you haven’t already, get a mirror and check today.
What your vagina really is.
The vagina is a muscular tube that goes from the vulva to the cervix.
Muscular tube. Not a gaping tunnel.
Just like any other muscle in your body, your vagina muscle needs to be cared for, exercised, strengthened and is impacted by age, pregnancy (with or without a c-section), birth and hormones.
If someone said to you, your heart is not strong. You wouldn’t feel ashamed. You would (hopefully) start to do some cardio! Exercise and strengthen your heart.
If your pelvic floor isn’t as strong as you’d like, you should strengthen that too!
Not just women, men lose strength in their pelvic floor as well.
How do you strengthen your vagina?
Think about your vagina right now. Then, squeeze it. There, see? It’s a muscle.
Kegel exercises are a place many start.
Pelvic floor exercises address the entire system, not just the vagina itself.
Overall physical conditioning.
Just like the entire rest of your body, your vagina changes over time.
Getting the larger menstrual cup doesn’t mean that you have a black hole vagina, it means that you are at a different place in life than you were when you were 14. Your entire rest of your body is not the same as it was when you are 14 and at no point in time should it make you feel shame, or undesirable.
So just stop. Your vagina is not a gaping black hole.
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