Menstrual Cup Stuck?

menstrual cup stuck

Menstrual Cup Stuck?

As a first-time cup user, one of my biggest fears was getting my menstrual cup stuck. I thought it could go too high and I wouldn’t be able to get it out, it would get stuck inside and I pictured having to visit an urgent care to have a stranger remove my bloody cup.

For most users, getting a menstrual cup stuck isn’t a concern. However, there are times when a cup may go high or may need help breaking suction to get the menstrual cup back out. If you feel like your cup is stuck, or you are worried about getting your menstrual cup stuck…here are some tips.

Getting a menstrual cup stuck usually means one of two things. It has gone up high and it hard to grasp or breaking the suction isn’t going as planned.

Luckily, getting the menstrual cup unstuck is usually easy and often an irrational fear first-time cup users have before giving the cup a try or getting the hang of inserting and removing.

First off relax…. don’t stress out! When you stress out your muscles, including your vagina, become tight and removing a cup can be more challenging.

Second step. Relax! It’s that important. Take a break, think happy thoughts, call your best friend or watch a short video of puppies.

menstrual cup stuck

A reusable menstrual cup is used like a tampon, it gets inserted into your vagina and keeps menstrual blood from reaching your vulva and coming out of the vaginal canal. However, unlike a tampon, it collects blood instead of absorbing it and is non-drying because the silicone won’t stuck the moisture out of your vagina.

To work without having menstrual cup leaks, your cup typically seals with your vaginal walls. The soft ring around the top, maybe also the cup body, adjusts to the shape of your vagina and funnels menstrual blood & fluid into the cup.

With a great fitting cup, you can go hours without having leaks! However, I personally have found that the seal can be tricky to break…if you don’t know how to do it.

True story

My first time using a reusable menstrual cup was at the beach. We had a great beach vacation planned for our kids but my cycle started on the day we got to our hotel! I have been unable to use a tampon since giving birth. My cervix is just too sensitive. I took my lena cups and dove in. I was not going to let my period prevent me from going swimming with my boys!

Inserting the cup took a few tries. However, when I went to remove the cup it felt stuck. I tugged and tugged on the stem and eventually used enough force to pull it down. OUCH. I thought I damaged my cervix.

I didn’t know that to remove the cup I first needed to break the seal. That un-sticks the cup and makes it easy to remove!

Breaking the suction

To break the suction, I typically pinch the bottom of the cup and then remove it while folding it at the same time. It comes out really easy. I can usually feel or almost hear it break.

However, I have a few brands of cups that make their way up really high. I have a high cervix. To break the suction for a cup that has wandered high…I use one hand and pull the stem down, then I reach in and fold the cup with the other hand.

The cup has gone too high

I have a very high cervix. I can’t reach my cervix with any of my fingers! Maybe I also have short fingers… Anyway…if a cup, like my XO Flo or my Super Jennie, sneaks up too high sometimes I can just grab the base of the stem.

This is a combination move. I push down (bear down) and pinch the stem of the cup with one hand and pull it down a bit (not far enough to break suction) and then I reach in with the other hand and pinch the cup to break the suction. Then I remove it like usual.

Get your squat on

Squatting down like I’m doing yoga or planting flowers helps put the cup in an easy to reach position. This position plus pushing like I’m delivering a baby or pooping helps drop it so I can grab the base of the cup.

Sometimes a partial squat is great. I toss one leg up onto the toilet or shower while standing and can get the cup out easily.


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Get a second hand

Worst case scenario. All is not lost.

I test reusable menstrual cups for review purposes. You can see many of my reviews here! Sometimes, I’m testing a cup that I know is a bit short for my high cervix.

If all else fails, I have considered asking my spouse to give me a hand. Literally. His fingers are longer than mine and I think can approach the cup at a better angle. Even if he could break the seal I could do the rest!

While it has never come to this, I have also considered calling my OB, who helped deliver 3 of my 4 babies, in a cup emergency. Luckily, during the learning process, I have been able to reach all of my cups even when I feared my menstrual cup was stuck.


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9 comments / Add your comment below

  1. As I first time user, unable to remove your cup is one of my biggest concerns and fears. But after reading this articles with all the awesome tips it has really helped me understand and once my cups arrives in the mail I will these tips to use

  2. This is a great topic for new users (either a new cup size or style can also cause some nerves about it not being reachable or able to release the seal)! I have been in this situation, and wish I had this information to help me through it. I simply waited for it to reposition lower and tried again. The highlight is that even after 12 hours of use the cup is a safe product, if one has to wait to be able to remove it!

  3. I have the opposite problem, a low cervix/shorter birth canal means sometimes it starts falling out or gets uncomfortable. Any brands you recommend that are better for that?

    1. Yes! Many companies recommend that you use the smaller version of their cup. Like the lena comes in a size 1 and 2 and the 1 is shorter because it’s smaller all around and holds less. The problem is that the smaller cups hold less and have to be emptied more often. They may not even suit users who have a heavy flow. There are some brands that make cups specifically for low cervix! I keep a list here and am always watching for new releases:

  4. I tried using a Diva cup awhile back. It took me awhile to insert, but once it was in there, it seemed fine. Then I tried to take it out. Holy crap. It was traumatic. I could not get it out. I could fold it, but I couldn’t grip it. I tried for a very long time on my own. Then I had to call in my husband for help. He was able to get it out, but not easily and not right away. He also had trouble gripping it! I was sore for days, and I never tried again.

    However, here I am looking for a solution because I just hate how much waste period products produce. I won’t put the Diva Cup I have back in me ever again… that was ridiculous. I got the one that is appropriate for my age (low 40s), but I can only assume that it is not compatible with me because I do not have children and/or the shape/size of me is off for that product.

    I also cannot reach my cervix with my own fingers. So, either my cervix is high or my fingers or short, or both. I could reach the Diva cup, and both my hubs and I could fold it, but the trick was getting a grip. My fingers (and my husband’s) would just slip off.

    Any recommendations??

    1. Hi! I have tried the Diva but it’s not my go-to cup. I wonder if the seal was broken. When I pinch my cup I can hear the seal break and then it’s easy to fold back into a C shape and slide down. If I pull on my cup and try to remove it without the seal broken I just can’t get it done. I have forced it once when it was still sealed and thought I damaged my cervix! Ouch! I would say that if you only tried it once I personally wouldn’t give up on the cup BUT if you associate the cup with a really bad experience there’s no reason to force it. You can even give it a boil and sell it on the BST board in my group chat! There are some high cervix cups. This one comes in a size 3 which is for high cervix/long vaginal canal here –> and there are also different style stems. The MeLuna cups have a ball or ring stem which may be easier to grip. The Diva really has a short stem! I hope this helps. You can join the chat on Facebook too!

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