What does my cervix feel like?
Beginner menstrual cup users are often told to measure their cervix height. Why? Menstrual cups come in a wide assortment of lengths and if you get one that’s too long for your vaginal canal it can stick out. If you get one that’s too short it can be hard to get out when you’re ready to empty it. However, the question that typically follows asking someone how high their cervix is…is “what does my cervix feel like?” Here’s one person’s story about locating theirs and what a cervix typically feels like, should you find yours! The cervix.
We all know it’s up there.
I mean, my gynecologist finds it to do a pap smear and I have had it bumped, quite painfully, during intercourse.
So, what does a cervix feel like?
The first time I was told to locate my cervix was when I was trying to conceive my children. A local doula told me to check my cervical mucus to find my fertile days by reaching inro my vaginal canal and getting a sample. I tried, half-heartedly, and failed…and eventually just went with a basal body thermometer and pee strips to check for ovulation. To be honest, I didn’t really want to be fishing around for my cervix anyway… Luckily, those methods worked and I pushed finding my cervix to the backburner.
Fast forward to trying my first menstrual cup. I didn’t read the instructions, reached in and thought my menstrual cup was stuck! AKA I didn’t break the seal and pulled down hard! Ouch…if you’ve ever felt the sensation of pulling a menstrual cup off of your cervix…you know right where it is!
“I must find it”, I thought. So, one day I set out to find my cervix and get a good old fashioned feel around my anatomy.
Typically the cervix drops down into the vaginal canal and is at it’s lowest during menstruation. So, I waited until my period was going strong a few days, locked the bathroom door and went searching.
I reached in with my index finger. It was a no-go. Where was it?
Next, I decided to squat down to open up my pelvic floor and lower everything as best I could. I reached in and felt something squishy…it felt kind of long, like a chubby finger and of course, it was bloody.
I suddenly felt light-headed and sat down.
Oh…my…God…there is a bloody finger in my vagina!
I had to take slow deep breaths. It’s not a bloody finger, it’s just my cervix, it’s just my cervix…I have lower blood pressure and a little excitement can cause me to get dizzy and I didn’t want to pass out in the bathroom…and be found pants down passed out on the floor with a bloody hand…
I was under the impression that my cervix was the end of my vaginal canal. Turns out…there is space around it! It’s like a hot dog in there and the end is rounded and has the hole in the center…like a donut.
Once I overcame the initial excitement, I now find my cervix regularly. When I insert a cup I make sure it’s inside and not pushed off to the side, I do a swipe around it to ensure my cup is open and positioned well and I feel really comfortable with my body!
So, what does a cervix feel like?
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Many would describe a cervix as having a donut shape, minus the sprinkles.
It’s typically round-ish and has an opening in the center. This opening is where menstrual fluids come out and the portion that dilates for delivering a baby. As you know, donuts come in all different shapes and sizes and so do cervixes.
However, it’s not nearly as large as a standard donut. The tip itself is often described as the “tip of your nose” and to me feels more like a chubby finger. If you check it at different times during the month the height can vary drastically which is why it’s best to check your cervix for a menstrual cup because that’s when you’ll be wearing it and the height will really matter.
It is typically coated with your natural fluids and during menstruation…menstrual fluids of course!
How far in should a cervix be?
The average vaginal length is 3.77 inches but can go up to 7 inches and be as low as 2-ish inches according to cup users. (1) Again, this height changes during menstruation and typically gets longer during arousal (2). They have not found a link between vagina length and age. (1)
How can finding my cervix help with menstrual cup use?
Locating your cervix and getting to know your body can help you position your menstrual cup correctly. It can also help you pick the right length cup for your body and flow needs. There are many amazing low cervix menstrual cups and high cervix menstrual cups and just about everything else is average length with many fantastic brands to choose from!
Don’t want to check yourself or unsure? Ask your practitioner during an exam, your partner or just dive in for an average length cup and see how it goes!
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(Another Pinterest image because I like them so much)